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People quit people not companies.

20/6/2013

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“People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”

A manager of a large organisation refer to his staff when they heard that many of his people where unhappy and considering leaving. Their comment was "why dont they just leave then!" This puzzled me while I thought about both sides of the situation, "Why dont they just leave then?" and "Why dont you care that people are wanting to leaving?"

What is it thats stopping the people from leaving? Pay, conditions, people, comfort-zone, the unknown, habit, the organisation...

And why doesn't the manager care if people are wanting to leave?......

People join a company for many reasons. Perhaps the vision of the organization resonates with them. Or they believe the company holds great opportunities for them. It could be the financial package been offered. Or they admire the company’s leaders. 

But when someone leaves an organization, chances are they have something in common. Their desire to leave and go to “greener pastures” is often motivated by the need to get away from someone.

The reality is that the leader is often the root of this person wanting to leave. The company does not usually do anything negative to them to make them consider leaving. People do…

So what type of people do employers quit?

1. People quit People who devalue them.

We all want to feel appreciated. Regular positive feedback makes people feel appreciated and valued. They feel as if they are contributing to the organization and they have a sense of value. Its impossible to add value to someone we devalue! Find the value n the people who work for you. Praise them for there contribution.

2. People quit people who are untrustworthy.

Trust in a leader is essential if people are going to follow that person over time. People must experience the leader is believable, credible and trustworthy. Trust is established when words and deeds are congruent. People loose trust in their leader when they display the following:
• Acting inconsistently in what they say and what they do.
• Seeking personal gain above sharing gain.
• Withholding information.
• Lying or telling half-truths
• Being closed-minded.

The best way for a leader to maintain trust are:
• Maintain integrity.
• Openly communicate their vision and values.
• Show respect for fellow employees as equal partners.
• Focus on shared goals more than their personal agendas
• Do the right thing regardless of personal risk.
Building and maintaining trust as a leader is a matter of integrity and communication. If you don’t want people to quit you, you need to be consistent, open, and truthful.

3. People quit people who are incompetent.

Everyone wants to feel that their leader can handle the job. Leaders need to inspire confidence, and they do that, not with charisma, but with competence. When leaders are incompetent they take the focus from the vision of the organization and place it on themselves. Productivity declines, moral suffers and positive momentum becomes impossible. People naturally follow leaders stronger than themselves. If this is not the case they quit and find someone else-somewhere else.

4. People quit people who are insecure.

Some leaders desire for power, position and recognition comes out in an obvious display of fear, suspicion, distrust or jealousy. Exceptional leaders develop their people and work themselves out of a job. Insecure leaders don’t train or coach their people to reach their potential and be more successful than they are. If they see someone working to overtake them they see this as a threat. People want to work for leaders who fire them up, not people who put out their fire. They want mentors who will help them reach their potential and succeed.

Start to:
1. Take responsibility for the relationships you have with others.
2. When people leave do an exit interview and discover the reasons why they are leaving. Its always difficult to move forward in darkness.
3. Put a high value on those who work for you. It’s wonderful when people believe in their leader, it more wonderful when a leader believes in the people.
4. Put the 4 H on top of your leadership list.
• Honor
• Honesty
• Humor
• Humility
5. Recognize that your positive emotional health creates a secure environment for people.
6. Nurture peoples passion for personal growth

One of the worst things that can happen to a organization is that it starts to loose its best people. When this happens, don’t blame it on the company, the market, the economy or the competition. Blame it on the leader

Never forget:

People quit people not companies.
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leaders make mistakes!

28/4/2012

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Okay, maybe not news to you, and certainly not news to me either. But how many actually admit they make mistakes? My experience has shown that some leaders admit it; some don't. When leaders make mistakes they have everything to gain by admitting them. When they don't, they have plenty to lose

But that is difficult for some, why? It's kind of a "human thing" to appear better than what you really are. However, that can be a big mistake. Here are three reasons to start admitting your mistakes the next opportunity you have.

1. You build trust. Leaders who admit mistakes build trust. In fact it is a real quick way to build trust. Admitting your mistakes demonstrates that you are human and endears people to you.

2. You gain respect. Leaders that admit mistakes show that they take accountability for their actions. In a world of leaders that make excuses, try to point the finger at someone else or lie, it is a breath of fresh air to have one that does none of that.

3. You learn. If a leader doesn't believe he or she ever makes mistakes, how can he or she learn from them. Leaders ought to embrace mistakes and learn from them.
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People Naturally Follow Leaders Stronger Than Themselves

4/12/2011

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  • People naturally follow leaders stronger than themselves. That’s how the Law of Respect works.
  • People don’t follow others by accident. People who are an 8 in leadership don’t look for a 6 to follow – they naturally follow a 9 or 10. The less skilled follow the more highly skilled and gifted.
  • Occasionally, a strong leader may choose to follow someone weaker than himself. But when that happens, it’s for a reason. For example, the stronger leader my do it out of respect for the person’s office or past accomplishments. Or he may be following the chain of command. In general though, followers are attracted to people who are better leaders than themselves.
  • When people get together for the first time in a group, take a look at what happens. As they start interacting, the leaders in the group immediately take charge. But after the people get to know one another, it doesn’t take long for them to recognize the strongest leaders and to start following them.
  • In time, people in the group get on board and follow the strongest leaders. Either that or they leave the group to pursue their own agenda.
  • Top Six Ways That Leaders Gain Others’ Respect
  1. Natural Leadership Ability – if you possess it, people will want to follow you. They will become excited when you communicate vision.
  2. Respect For Others – when leaders show respect for others – especially for people who have less power or a lower position than theirs – they gain respect from others. If you continually respect others and consistently lead them well, you will continue to have followers.
  3. Courage – Good leaders do what’s right, even at the risk of failure, in the face of great danger and under the brunt of relentless criticism. Can you think of one great leader from history who was without courage? A leader’s courage gives his followers hope.
  4. Success – When leaders succeed in leading the team to victory, then followers believe they can do it again. As a result, followers follow them because they want to be part of success in the future. 
  5. Loyalty – When leaders stick with the team until the job is done and look out for their followers best interests even when it hurts them personally, followers will in turn learn to respect them. 
  6. Value Added to Others – Followers value leaders who add value to them and their respect for them carries on long after the relationship has ended.
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Respect in Leadership

3/9/2010

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Respect is one of the values that we hear talked about a lot. Respect is a word that always evokes a positive conversation. The problem has been that almost no one really thinks about or understands what it means to respect someone, create a culture of respect among people or for that matter what it means to be respected.

Most of us believe that respect is an important value and that it is good. We do not normally think of respect as an action but as a feeling or judgment about other people.


To understand and distinguish respect it is important to recognize that language is fundamental to how we see the world. Language both opens possibilities and empowers us, or it closes possibilities and limits us.


If we say we respect someone, we are “looking" at the other person in a particular way — usually suggesting we are open to listen and honor each other’s views even if we disagree. If we say we don’t respect someone, we are generally closed to certain possibilities and conversations with them.


Likewise, if we have “self-respect” we are generally in a healthy internal conversation with ourselves. If we don’t respect ourselves, we will typically be stuck in all sorts of unproductive and unsatisfying "self-talk". If we say that something is possible to someone we respect, we will more than likely have a productive and satisfying dialogue. If we don’t respect them then we will more than likely be closed, not listen or in some cases disregard and dismiss them and their views outright.


‘Respect’ is just a word, but what it means and what it distinguishes for us can make all the difference in how we observe ourselves and others.


If we can create a culture in which respect is universal and an expression of our commitment to each other as human beings and how we choose to "look at each other", then we have a foundation for designing ways for collaboration and mutual empowerment that are simply not possible in the absence of authentic respect.


I believe that respect is the foundation for any serious discourse on coaching, leadership or building satisfying relationships with others. Without respect there are no possibilities for trust, sharing a vision, for empowerment or for creating powerful teams and organizations.


Respect (or lack of it) is a core aspect of any recurring conflict situation as well as an integral factor in most labour-management disputes. Many times, we use the term and our feelings about respect to in effect say, “You should agree with me and behave the way I want you to or it means you don’t respect me (or justifies my not respecting you) and therefore I can rationalize doing just about anything I want without concern for you”.


In an organizational or social context our judgments and level of respect become the basis for how we relate to other people on a day-to-day basis.


Respect is fundamental to human relationships (and relationship with self) is not a new idea. What is new is the inquiry into whether it is possible to respect people with whom we strongly disagree and whose actions and behaviour are inconsistent with what we value. We all use respect (or lack of respect) to determine how open we are, how trusting we are and how we choose to relate to others.


When we have negative judgments, our assessments become the justification to give or not give respect. In our everyday way of relating, we rarely notice that the judgments and assessments are one thing, and the conclusions and actions that follow are something else.


Respect can be seen as an action and that it is possible to create a culture in which people naturally and authentically respect each other. To do this, however, we need to consider how we are looking at people already. That is, we need to observe that we are normally judging others in terms of our own values and practices. Our baseline for assessing others is essentially what we happen to believe at a given moment. The implication of this has to do with whether we can take someone seriously if they don’t meet or match our standards and beliefs.


If we can’t take someone seriously then we never have the conversations which could make a difference in how we relate or what is or isn’t possible for us in the future. When this occurs we become trapped in a vicious cycle of judgment-lack of respect-reaction, and more judgment that justifies more lack of respect.


It is of course possible to partially finesse the issue by trying to separate the "human being" from his or her behavior… “I respect YOU, but don’t respect your behavior”.


I am suggesting that we must respect everyone if the idea of respect is to make any sense other than as a tool for judging and manipulating behavior. The reason for this is that the simple act of judging whether someone (including ourselves) is worthy of our respect is to separate us from the other person as a human being and assume a "superior" relationship to them.


As a coach, I am always relating to a person in two domains….one is who I say they are as a possibility, the other is who they are in a context of my judgments and their history. My choice is in which context I will relate to them. If I relate to another in a context of possibility then our work together is about their commitments, creating breakthroughs and producing unprecedented results. If I relate to them in a context of their past and my assessments then the game typically becomes about me analyzing their behavior and attempting to "fix" or control them.


Creating a culture of respect begins with a commitment to seeing everyone as worthy of respect. In a culture of respect there will be more straight talk (especially of negative assessments) because we respect each other. In a culture of respect — all sorts of relationship issues, differences and lack of alignment become positive forces for change, not justifications for the status quo.


Human beings will always have judgments about themselves and others. It doesn’t matter whether our judgments are positive or negative since no judgment is ever true or false anyway, no matter how many may agree or disagree with it.


Respect is one of many values we seek to "enculturate" in our organizations. Like all values it cannot be legislated or regulated into existence. It can be learned, it can be coached and leaders everywhere can demonstrate it.


Creating a culture of respect doesn’t solve problems or predict any particular behavior. It does, however, shift the context, our consciousness and the organizational paradigm in such a way as that we need not sacrifice our relationships in moments of conflict and fear. Moreover, when we respect others, we are able to consider our own responsibility for our disagreements and differences and most of all we can engage in dialogues to create a future in which everyone is included without perpetuating reactive cycles of distrust, resentment and acrimony….a future based on respect.
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Show respect.

6/6/2010

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Genuinely treat employees with kindness, respect and dignity.
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